“…You may have heard of Trauma-Informed Care. It is all the rage right now and for good reason. More organizations and faith communities are adopting trauma-informed policies in order to ensure the health and well-being of their members. But one that hasn’t, at least not yet, is my church: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints……and the non-trauma informed….”
A little over five years ago, I could finally be honest about my sexuality. Prior to that, my life was pretty much what one would consider very active and faithful in the LDS church. I went on a mission and served in many leadership callings, solidly focused on living what I thought at the time was God’s will for me.
Why do we assume missionaries should stay in the field when a family member dies?
In 2014 Elder Henry B. Eyring gave a talk in Rome in which he spoke of his feelings before marrying his wife decades earlier. He told the story as evidence of the happiness and personal fulfillment that can come with marriage. As a single man whose work...
“…Forgiveness should never be taught or framed as a necessary requirement for healing in situations of abuse, profound mistreatment, or exploitation. Instead, a clear and distinctive caveat should be made that in abusive situations in which a person has been victimized and traumatized, the requirement for forgiveness is absolved from the victim’s burden and the primary focus should be on safety and healing, however and whenever that may come organically to the victim…”
Dad asked everyone the meaning of life: after exchanging names, in the elevator, in the checkout line, when a friend calls him, at family gatherings, “What’s the meaning of Life.”
“. . . A whole list of questions remain. Were any professional organizations consulted during the creation of this training? If so, which ones? Why is there STILL a helpline being used and why ON EARTH is it still only for bishops to use? What measures are being taken to address situations where the leader IS the abuser? What is the policy for members to report an abusive leader? . . .”
Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers two new questions: The first about how to make sense of wet dreams in the context of marriage, and how to address differences in sexual desire and biological needs in constructive ways. The second question addresses the role of erotica and...
Dear Russell M. Nelson, president and prophet of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Consider this my open letter to you and your First Presidency. You did not respond directly to me when I resigned from your church,...
Russell M Nelson, in his Sunday morning general conference address had some pretty dangerous remarks that hurt me and many of my friends, and even more via their parents. No Empty Chairs One day we had a Family Home Evening. I was probably in my mid teens. The lesson...
“…Heaven will be a place of love, not a place of longing. It will be a place of healing, not a place of hurting. It will be a place of well-being, not a place of wounding. It will be a place of peace, not a place of pain. It will be a place of tranquility, not a place of trauma. It will be a place of togetherness, not a place of terror. It will be a place of safety, not a place of separation. It will be a place of elation, not a place of encumbrance. It will be a place of goodness, not a place of grief…”
Who Else is Confused? Leaked Policy to Revelation to Revelation-Reversal-Revelation: The Ask a Mormon Lesbian Podcast With Laura Root (episode 40; 349)
Does anyone else out there in Mormondom have whiplash from the recent change in policy, I mean recent revelation changing a revelation from almost four years ago regarding LGBTQ Mormons and their children?
– Laura and Miguel discuss yesterday’s policy revelation in the latest episode of The Ask a Mormon Lesbian Podcast.
How do I decide right and wrong? If there’s no afterlife, what’s the point of being a good person? Why should I care if my actions affect other people?
“…What happens when a victim pursues legal action or justice from the church or those associated with the church? Are there patterns of practice that take place within the litigation process with the church? What are some of the tactics used by attorney’s for the church to victim-shame, victim-blame, gas-light, and retaliate against victims who seek legal justice?…”
It is impossible to be a mother of both sons and daughters and not notice external and even internal biases that are imposed upon our children. Blue for boys, pink for girls. Trucks for boys, dolls for girls. But there are also covert biases that exist. Recently, a...
“Julian’s written revelations are rich in metaphorical language that she uses to try to convey in imperfect language the ineffable experiences that she had. What do Julian’s metaphors reveal of the nature of Divine Love? Why does it matter what metaphors we use to understand God and God’s love?”