In this episode of “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” Brian and Laurel talk with  Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about the effect of pornography and previous sexual experiences on the other partner’s desire for sex in a relationship, and in the second question we discuss the legitimacy of sexuality in long distance marital relationships (phone sex).

Jennifer mentioned the book She Comes First by Ian Kerner, which we talked about briefly in part 9 of this series which includes a list of other recommended resources. Also you can check out Jennifer’s course on Cultivating Desire, as it pertains to the first question addressed today.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a psychotherapist who focuses on issues surrounding female sexuality and feminism within the LDS framework. She holds a PhD in Counseling Psychology from Boston College where she wrote her dissertation on LDS women and sexuality. She has taught college-level classes on human sexuality and currently has a private therapy practice in Chicago. In her private practice, she primarily works with LDS couples on sexuality and relationship issues. She also teaches online courses to LDS couples on these issues. She is married, has three kids, and is an active member of the LDS church.

Be Sure to check out Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s site for her online courses including How to talk to your (LDS) kids about sex: Fostering healthy development in a sex-saturated age as well as her other online courses.

If you have a question for the good doctor you can comment below OR send an email to

Music: Sugar Blues (Pubic Domain)

Brian was born and raised in Northern Utah and is now working as a chemist in Ohio. He has one wife and three children. He currently serves as the ward hall monitor. He likes to eat good food, and build cool things.

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