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It is the 100th episode for the Rational Faiths Podcast! Wahoo!!!
Here in the 14th installment of the “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” series Brian and Laurel talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about managing pornography viewing and balancing a marriage between two people with different levels of desire wherein the woman is the high desire partner.
Here is the link to the Heber J. Grant story [click]. And the longer BYU Studies article that also mentions it [Heber].
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a psychotherapist who focuses on issues surrounding female sexuality and feminism within the LDS framework. She holds a PhD in Counseling Psychology from Boston College where she wrote her dissertation on LDS women and sexuality. She has taught college-level classes on human sexuality and currently has a private therapy practice in Chicago. In her private practice, she primarily works with LDS couples on sexuality and relationship issues. She also teaches online courses to LDS couples on these issues. She is married, has three kids, and is an active member of the LDS church.
If you have a question for the good doctor you can comment below OR send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
Music: Sugar Blues (Pubic Domain)
What about taking this a step further where married couples use pornography/erotic imagery together to enduce eroticism and sexual drive and then turn that energy towards each other? As has been mentioned, as long as this is not truly destructive to the relationship, could this be a healthy addition to sex and how could that possibly jive with Mormon doctrine?
Simple fix for men with a low sex drive: go to your doctor, get a hormone panel done, and get on testosterone cypionate! It’s usually low testosterone in men that causes a lack of interest in sex. Not very complicated.
I have a question —
I’ve already listened to Episode 4 in which Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about nudity with children. I’d like to hear more about this. Our son is 2, almost 3. My husband is getting concerned about me being naked or showering with my son because at this point my son will start remembering. That’s why I listened to Episode 4 in the first place.
Here are my husband’s and my further questions.
The questioner in episode 4 asked, I think partly in joking, if he ought to have a book on their living room table with pictures of naked women in it. Dr Finlayson-Fife said that wouldn’t be a bad idea. Was she joking as well? I guess that idea is so far from what I or my husband were thinking that we can’t imagine that as a good thing.
My husband was inactive and almost 30 when we met. He’d had a long history with pornography and still sometimes struggles with it. He is concerned that having naked women or pictures around would get our son into pornography earlier than he’ll already be exposed to it, or prime him for when that exposure will happen.
How would you address a man’s lowered desire for sex due to his wife not just gaining weight, but what appears to be a disregard for her health. I have tried to be a good example, but even when we tried to be “healthy” she ends up hiding stuff from me.
I would love to know the source for your story regarding Heber J. Grant and his stopping of beer/coffee by allowing himself a drink whenever he wanted. In the podcast you mentioned you would post the link for the source but I’m not sure where to find it.
I just added the link. Sorry it took me a while to realize I hadn’t included that originally.
I am not able to hear this podcast, except for when Brian is talking. The rest is muted. Can someone please fix this.
I’m sorry you can disregard my earlier comment. I tried a different browser and it’s working.
Is it possible to get a link to the book Dr. Finlayson-Fife talked about, Losing Control?
Are these podcasts ever going to be made available for us to listen to? I know that it was mentioned that you were ending the new additions and going to so creating new content. But isn’t there a way that we could still listen to the ones you already put together?