Much has already been written about the recent changes to LDS Handbook 1 that define entering into same-sex marriages as apostasy and preventing children in same-sex marriage families from being baptized and participating in other ordinances. I have little to add except a few thoughts on Elder Christofferson’s recent “context” video as well as my perspective as a social scientist on the long-term implications of this decision.
I will specify that while I may personally question the long-term wisdom of this decision to one degree or another, I do not challenge the legitimate authority of the LDS General Authorities to dictate LDS Church doctrine and policies. I would have taken a different approach if I were boss, but I’m not (obviously).
First, some thoughts, reactions, and questions to Elder Christofferson’s video:
- One common criticism of Church leaders from progressive Mormons is the lack of clarity and consistency in the application of church policy, often resulting in “leadership roulette.” To their credit, Church leaders are attempting to provide this clarity and consistency and reduce ambiguity in the application of policy. (On a related note, I also think that the Church deserves credit for its other efforts on this issue regarding the “Utah Compromise” and Elder Oaks’ recent statements on the marriage license issue.)
- Elder Christofferson explained that one of the primary motivations of this policy change is to “protect” the children in same-sex families from receiving mixed messages in their home environment. One question I have, then, is why the specific focus on same-sex families? As it stands, many children currently receive mixed messages at home from what they hear at church, “where the parents feel one way and the expectations of the Church are very different.” Children from mixed-faith marriages, for example, often are taught religious precepts by one or both of their parents that oppose Church doctrine. By that standard, why welcome those children but marginalize children of same-sex marriage families? Others have pointed out this same standard also does not apply for children of those who engage in other “grievous sins” which, arguably, are of a different moral status than engaging in committed, monogamous same-sex relationships.
- Elder Christofferson argued that while Jesus was of course compassionate and loving to all, he never tolerated or changed his definition of sin. I agree that if someone is of the theological position that absolute moral truth exists, then theoretically the standards of morality should never change. However, I think it is also obvious that our understanding and perception of those moral standards can and does and has evolved and changed and developed almost constantly throughout the history of humanity especially the history of Mormonism in particular (see here, here, and here for starters). To confidently claim that our understanding of moral standards (as individuals, religious communities, cultures, etc.) is complete and that it will never change denies, in my mind, the possibility of continuing revelation and the reception of “further light and knowledge” that is one of the hallmark teachings of Mormonism. And as Pres. Uchtdorf has taught, “how often has the Holy Spirit tried to tell us something we needed to know but couldn’t get past the massive iron gate of what we thought we already knew?” Of course I recognize the necessity of proceeding on the “light and knowledge” that we currently have available to us, but I would think that it would make us (as a individuals, as a community, and as leaders) more humble about the degree and intensity of our certainty in the things that we believe to be “unchangeable.” [FN1]
Second, here are my predictions about the long-term implications of this policy change, based on my perspective as a social scientist who specializes in American politics, religion, and the intersection between the two.
Just this week the Pew Research Center released the second major group of findings of its 2014 Religious Landscape Survey. One of the key findings is the increasing polarization of American religion – those who affiliate with a religious tradition have become slightly more devout and faithful in their religious observance while those who do not affiliate with a specific tradition have become markedly less so. Also, the secularization of American religious culture has continued over the last several years, especially among young Americans. And other research has shown that this is due in no small part to the socially conservative stands taken by many major religious institutions. Young Americans are highly accepting of homosexuality and same-sex marriage. They are, on average, not impressed with religious institutions that continue to beat the conservative drum on these issues, and have little interest in affiliating with or supporting them. They are also less likely to support political parties and organizations that support these positions.
I would argue that this research suggests that this policy change will do the following in the short or long term, to one extent or another:
In the short term, this will likely increase the cultural association between the LDS Church and opposition to same-sex marriage specifically and homosexuality in general. In turn, this will likely increase the difficulty for both young people as well as those who are active members yet socially moderate/liberal to maintain affection for and association with the LDS Church in the long-run. This is because this policy strengthens the wedge between supporters and opponents of same-sex marriage and homosexuality. These individuals will continue to feel increasingly torn and “cross-pressured” by these conflicting values. Eventually many will feel that they will have to make a choice between the two in order to resolve the cognitive dissonance that they feel. When faced with such a choice, most Americans tend to resolve the dissonance by choosing their political ideals over their religious beliefs (Putnam and Campbell 2012, chapters 3-4).
This strongly suggests that the long-term effects of this policy decision will be to: 1) further marginalize same-sex marriage supporters in the church to the point where they may eventually simply choose exit over voice and 2) exacerbate the perceived irrelevance of socially conservative religious institutions in general (and the LDS Church in particular) among young members of the Church who are increasingly choosing to support and defend their gay friends and family over defending the Church’s orthodox religious beliefs.
In other words, continuing to marginalize and stigmatize a group of people who are quickly becoming “normalized” by society and perceived with ever-increasing sympathy and support is likely not a recipe for long-term growth and viability.
Of course this may not be the primary concern of Church leaders. I have no idea. It is possible that they may be making the reasonable calculation that an active body of more faithful/orthodox members is preferable and even desirable, even if it comes with some cost of membership numbers and societal influence. In that case the likely results of this policy (as described above) may be within the acceptable range of outcomes from their perspective.
[FN1] After all, some could argue that by one perspective the LDS Church has already “radically redefined the definition of marriage” not just once, but twice in its relatively short history…
I am one of those more moderate church members. I believe I am going to leave the church, because I can’t tolerate what I perceive as oppression.
I’ve always stood for gay rights and especially so in the church. I have been marginalized because I chose to raise my children alone. Did my family drift away form the church? NO. I taught them right and wrong and made sure they knew and understood when my behavior wasn’t appropriate. This choice is going to change many peoples lives for the worst.
Elder Kristofferson makes the point that children living in the households of gay couples, as a matter of a matching policy, are to be subject to the same restrictions as children of polygamous families. It seems to me that their is a very large difference: The fear of the church seems to be that the children of polygamous parents are highly indoctrinated with the religion of their parents and are thus a threat. Homosexual children are not indoctrinated to be homosexual, they are born that way.
Derrill
Elder C is very concerned about the idea that children will be taught in Primary that gay marriage is a sin, only to return home to their gay parents, whereupon their heads will explode with cognitive dissonance. Only one problem with that: Primary doesn’t teach that gay marriage is a sin. Primary teaches about following the Prophets and stuff like that, but they say absolutely nothing about anything sexual, and rightly so.
Although now that I think about it, there’s at least one time when the Primary taught something in direct contradiction to what they see in the home. Last year the kids were taught via song that “a father’s place is to preside.” In our home both parents co-preside (and co-nurture); we merely explained to the kids on the way home from church that while SOME families have a single presider, our family does not. It was a conversation of less than 5 minutes and caused no pain or cog. diss. on either side.
If children are punished because of their parents’ sins (which I think is really what’s going on here) why aren’t children born of sin from fornocation or adultry and the like not treated the same? Sin is sin. I have a friend who’s daughter had a child ‘out of wedlock’. Yet she is allowed to be baptized, blessed, etc. None of this makes sense to me. I don’t care how it’s ‘spinned’, it doesn’t seem Christ like to me.