If books like Not Even Once Club are any indication, we Mormons hold ourselves to some pretty strict standards.  As I’ve mentioned before, we often forge these standards as weapons and use them against each other.  We create a picture of what a good Mormon looks like, and judge each other based on these standards.

One example of this is the arbitrariness of our rated R movie standard.  Let me be clear, I think there is value in not watching media that is not uplifting.  And I think much of what is out there can be the exact opposite of uplifting.  Things that would harrow up the souls of men and cause unnecessary sorrow. (See Mormon 5:8-9).  But using rated R movies for this standard is both archaic and arbitrary.  Archaic because, while it maybe once upon a time was useful, with the advent of the internet and technology there are much better ways of judging whether or not a movie is worth seeing.  Arbitrary because the rated R standard is only relevant in the United States.  Movies that are rated R in the states for some reason or another are often rated the equivalent of PG (or even G!) in other countries.  By which standard should Mormons in those countries measure themselves? It seems unfair that members in Canada can enjoy the fabulousness that is The King’s Speech, but members in the United States cannot. But, alas, we are so passionate about our rated R rule that we pretty much treat others who view rated R movies the same way we treat porn addicts.

Another obvious example of this is the Word of Wisdom.  We’ve applied so much more to D&C 89 than is actually written on the page.  For one, it isn’t actually a commandment. (see verse 2)

For another, our interpretation of it has changed so much over time, it becomes a fairly arbitrary standard.  And, as we Mormons are prone to do, we often taken it way, way further than we need to. For example, not drinking caffeine is a real thing for many, many Mormons.  It used to be for me. But it is not a real thing according to official church statements.  And then there is David O McKay being  fine with “eating” alcohol…

At a reception McKay attended, the hostess served rum cake. ‘All the guests hesitated, watching to see what McKay would do. He smacked his lips and began to eat.’ When one guest expostulated, “‘But President McKay, don’t you know that is rum cake?’ McKay smiled and reminded the guest that the Word of Wisdom forbade drinking alcohol, not eating it.’1

Most members apply a level of rigidity in standard to the Word of Wisdom many a prophet would fail to meet when it comes to the Word of Wisdom.  Including Joseph Smith, who drank quite a lot of wine the night before he died.

And don’t get me started on modesty.  (But read THIS and THIS and THIS)

So, this year I’m going to buck a few of these standards by completing a list of resolutions that would most assuredly keep me out of the “not even once club”.  Some parties I just don’t want to get invited to.

2014 RESOLUTIONS:

  1. Make homemade vanilla (will require the purchase of hard liquor)
  2. Eat coffee flavored ice cream.
  3. Learn to make a nice white wine sauce.  Or rum cake. (Or both.)
  4. Make some kind of mocha flavored chocolate dessert. (I hear it enhances the chocolate flavor and I am GAME.)
  5. Watch at least 5 rated R movies. (I reserve the right to just watch The King’s Speech five times.)
  6. Find an appropriate situation to bare my shoulders, and do so (Will probably be while running or mowing the yard or something) at least five times.  Extra credit for showing mid to upper thigh.
  7. Practice the art of the well placed swear, become proficient. (Done artfully, not gratuitously—probably mostly in reference to my soon to be ex-brother-in-law.)
  8. Pick a day to consume copious amounts of caffeine and ride the high until I get all jittery. (probably during a road trip)
  9. Skip church at least 3 Sundays, just because I don’t feel like going.
  10. Buy a lottery ticket

Let me be clear, my intent here isn’t to be rebellious.  It is to let go of the meaningless ways we become Pharisees.  It is to shed the rote things we become so focused on, that we forget what really matters.  I do have a couple of other resolutions.  They are:

  1. Love God with all my heart, soul, and mind.
  2. Love my neighbor as myself.

This is really all that matters.

 

1.Prince, Gregory A. 2005. David O. McKay and The Rise of Modern Mormonism. The University of Utah Press. p 28.

Leah Marie earned a BA in Political Science, and a Masters in Public Administration. She is currently working towards her PhD in Public Policy. She is wife to an English professor, and mother to 3 beautiful boys.

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