Stop it! …No, seriously, stop it right now.

Jesus put it rather simply: “Judge not, that ye be not judged.” To that simple injunction, he added a more specific warning: “With whatsoever measure ye mete, it shall be measured unto you.” Barreling through the King James English, that means, “Your own measuring stick will be used to measure...

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Unattainable Male Standard of Beauty- A Conversation With My Daughter

I overheard my oldest daughter Sammie the other day say she wanted fake eyelashes. She’s only 15. What follows is my best recollection of the conversation that followed. Some of what I said I wish I could change. There are a few statements I wish were more nuanced and sensitive. I recognize the irony of a man having this...

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The Young Women (lessons) are a Changin’

So today I was browsing the ol’ book of Faces, when I saw a link to a Google doc done by Laura Compton comparing the Young Women’s manual from June of 2013 to June of 2014.  The lessons are on the priesthood. The changes are pretty fascinating, especially since church correlations and corrections usually attempt to be...

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#doublestandard

Mar 15, 14 #doublestandard

Posted by in Featured, Modesty, Mormon Humor, Mormonism

  BYU recently held it’s Pro Day where NFL scouts come to watch players. It looks like things started out well, but eventually all hell broke loose and we had football players in underwear. I mean sports attire. I’m not sure what they were thinking posting those pictures. They know that women and kids would see...

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Tears for the Unordained Women in My Life

Last Saturday my wife tells me that our 13 year old La La (nickname) is going to be set apart on Sunday as a counselor in the Beehive’s Class Presidency and we are invited to attend. I sigh, not because I don’t feel proud of her but because I feel afraid of this moment as it signals one of several uniquely Mormon events aimed at...

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The Modesty Conundrum

I feel like sometimes we are painting ourselves into a corner with all this modesty stuff. We’re at a point where women’s underwear and bathing suit ads are considered pornography by some (because that is apparently where many men’s problems with pornography start? Nevermind that it could actually start because a...

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An Open Letter to Mormon Women: A Modesty Proposal

Dec 23, 13 An Open Letter to Mormon Women:  A Modesty Proposal

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An Open Letter to Mormon Women: A Modesty Proposal Dear Mormon Women, you are the greatest. Thank you so much for all you do in the Church. Some of my best friends in the world are women. But I wanted to draw attention to something. My comments might not be politically correct, but they address an issue that really matters:...

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Young Women – Please Help My Sons Stay Clean & Pure

Oct 23, 13 Young Women – Please Help My Sons Stay Clean & Pure

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I want to take a moment on behalf of all men to personally thank the virtuous women who dress modestly so that we can keep our thoughts pure and clean. I am so grateful for the virtuous women throughout my life that dressed modestly so I wouldn’t have bad thoughts. Those righteous girls I dated in high school and college...

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The Moral Force of Men

Men bring with them into the world a certain virtue, a divine gift that makes them adept at instilling such qualities as faith, courage, empathy, and refinement in relationships and in cultures. Years ago, while living in Mexico, I recall a particular young father, one of many among the men of the Church in Mexico whose faith in God...

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How to Swim in a Burqa

Oct 07, 13 How to Swim in a Burqa

Posted by in Featured, Feminism, Modesty

How to Swim in a Burqa 1. Update your will. 2. Don said burqa. 3. Proceed to the deep end of the pool. 4. Say farewell to family and friends. 5. Dive in! 6. Enjoy your last, surreal moments as you helplessly sink straight to the bottom – the billowing black cloth transformed into your funeral shroud. This was the image that...

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