In this episode of “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” Brian talks with  Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about how the high desire partner can best contribute to a relationship that is sexually dysfunctional but also in the process of healing (hint: not necessarily just being patient), the second question is about male ownership of sexual desire (when you want it but you don’t openly acknowledge and express your sexual desire for your wife).

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Book List

With ratings for those who want to make sure to have milk before meat.

MILK = probably a little bit of a stretch in comfort for typical LDS folks to read.
MEAT = the content could range from uncomfortable to shocking depending on your experience.

And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment MILK A good intro to sexuality and relationships. Written by a LDS therapist and uses LDS scripture and leader statements.

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships MEAT A pioneering book on intimate human relationships. Describes sexual activity explicitly. Uses language that could be considered crass.

She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman MILK and MEAT A good guide to women’s sexuality. Is focused on oral sex.

Sex Matters for Women, Second Edition: A Complete Guide to Taking Care of Your Sexual Self MILK Guide to women’s sexuality, a roadmap for self-discovery and growth.

STRENGTHENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP COURSE AND THE ENHANCING SEXUAL INTIMACY COURSE  ORGANIC GRASS-FED MEAT Jennifer’s online courses for couples.

WOMEN’S SEXUALITY AND DESIRE COURSE ORGANIC GRASS-FED MEAT Jennifer’s online course for women.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a psychotherapist who focuses on issues surrounding female sexuality and feminism within the LDS framework. She holds a PhD in Counseling Psychology from Boston College where she wrote her dissertation on LDS women and sexuality. She has taught college-level classes on human sexuality and currently has a private therapy practice in Chicago. In her private practice, she primarily works with LDS couples on sexuality and relationship issues. She also teaches online courses to LDS couples on these issues. She is married, has three kids, and is an active member of the LDS church.

Be Sure to check out Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s site for her online courses.

If you have a question for the good doctor you can comment below OR send an email to askdrfife@rationalfaiths.com

Music: Sugar Blues (Pubic Domain)

Brian was born and raised in Northern Utah and is now working as a chemist in Ohio. He has one wife and three children. He currently serves as the ward hall monitor. He likes to eat good food, and build cool things.

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